Infidelity Investigations: What to Know Before and During the Process

Suspecting a partner of infidelity can be one of the most emotionally challenging experiences you’ll face. Before you make any assumptions—or confront your spouse—it’s important to approach the situation calmly, strategically, and with facts, not feelings. At Seek & Shield, we understand how sensitive these matters are, which is why our goal is to provide clarity and actionable truth.

Before the Investigation: Signs and Red Flags

While none of these indicators alone confirm infidelity, they can raise concerns that warrant further attention:

1. Sudden Changes in Behavior

• Unexplained mood swings or irritability

• Increased secrecy about personal devices (phones, tablets, laptops)

• A new obsession with appearance or fitness without clear reason

2. Digital Red Flags

• Frequent clearing of text messages or browser history

• New social media accounts or hidden profiles

• Sudden increase in encrypted messaging apps

3. Unexplained Absences

• Staying late at work more often than usual

• Vague explanations about time away from home

• Business trips that seem excessive or last-minute

Preparing for an Infidelity Investigation

If you’re considering hiring a professional investigator, here’s what to do before the process begins:

• Document What You Know: Keep a detailed record of unusual activities, dates, and times.

• Avoid Confrontation: Confronting your partner too soon can lead to destruction of evidence.

• Secure Important Information: Ensure shared financial records, email accounts, and relevant documents are backed up and protected.

During the Investigation: What to Expect

Professional investigations aim to provide discreet, lawful, and factual findings. Here’s what typically happens:

1. Surveillance

Licensed investigators may monitor locations, routines, and interactions to confirm patterns of behavior—without breaking any laws.

2. Digital Forensics

When appropriate and legally permitted, investigators may analyze publicly available online activity, dating app usage, or suspicious communication patterns.

3. Background Checks

If there’s a suspected third party, investigators can perform deep-dive checks to confirm their identity and involvement.

The Importance of Staying Objective

Remember: the goal is clarity, not revenge. Gathering accurate evidence can protect your legal position, especially in divorce or custody proceedings. Emotional decisions made too early can complicate your case.

Why Seek & Shield?

With over two decades of investigative experience, our team understands the fine line between fact-finding and privacy laws. We work discreetly, compassionately, and with professionalism to deliver the truth you deserve—so you can make informed decisions for your future.

Considering an investigation? Contact Seek & Shield for a confidential consultation. Your peace of mind starts with facts.